The importance of a good relationship with your boss when you are striving for a good work/life balance cannot be underestimated. If you manage your boss, or, “manage up” as a corporate cliché, life becomes a lot simpler for you, and you will get the most freedom you can expect.
It may come as a surprise, but you have more influence on your boss that you think. In fact, us bosses, quite enjoy to be managed because it gets some pressure off our shoulders.
This is an incredible opportunity for you to take maximum control over the situation and make things happen the way you want it happen.
Here is what you need to do:
Manage your boss, take the upper hand. Make yourself irreplaceable by understanding what makes your boss successful, not just yourself. And help make it happen.
There are a few basic things you need to remember:
(1) The boss and you have a unique relationship. And like any relationship, there needs to be give and take. But, at the end of the day, your boss is your boss, and depending on whether your boss is a leader, a manager or just an ass, the onus is usually on you to adapt.
(2) Your boss also has a boss. So, many decisions or conclusions or “orders” that your boss passes down to you, may be due to influence from above or from some sideways place you are unaware of. And if you get a problem with any “order” just ask “why?” But please do it nicely 🙂
(3) Typically, people do not stay in positions for more than 5 years. So if you can’t build a healthy relationship with your boss, figure out if he is likely to move, or is it up to you to exit the bad situation.
(4) Remember one key thing. If you genuinely piss your boss off, and you have designs on forging a career in the same company, chances are it will not happen. Actually, quite the contrary, if your boss likes You, he/she/it will tell peers, and rest assured, you will get headhunted within your own organization.
The last point is critical! In the next post I will share what is pissing me off as a manager. Hoping it will help you to get better at not annoying your boss.